Retard – the term is people (notice the word people) with intellectual and developmentally disabilities or “dd” for short. Saying this or that is re****ed makes you look ignorant or stupid no matter what the dictionary says because most of you aren’t using it in the dictionary sense but are thinking of people (notice the word people) with dd. And most people with dd know you are talking about them and exactly in what sense the word is being used.
Desi – whenever I hear this term I think of Desi Arnaz.
African American – I prefer to say black, never negro (unless I’m speaking in Spanish) or AA which looks like alcoholics anonymous to me. Although, I once listened to an Egyptian imam in a predominantly West African masjid say we are all African Americans and I appreciated the sentiment.
White – I prefer to say European American or better yet European American immigrant settlers.
N word – never ever. Especially not from non-blacks even if you think you’re down because you’re not. And not from blacks either. And if it comes from a racist, I don’t really care because it just makes them look like an anachronism like the Afrikaner “white tribe of Africa”
Zabihah – halal is easier
Khair – the kh is a killer. It never sounds right to my ears even when I say it correctly. And it makes me a little more self-conscious except when I’m with other converts because most of them can’t pronounce it either.