Dr. Sherman Jackson | We’re American Muslims, Can’t Be Anything Else

If an American who’s awake and socially aware converts to Islam, he or she will encounter the cultural and intellectual imperialism of their fellow Muslims. Not only will you experience pressure to change your name but you will also be asked to choose between being fully American or fully Muslim as if the two are not compatible. An identity crisis is soon to follow but for many of us, it takes years to realize that we’re in it and climb out of it.

Photographer Mustafa Davis poignantly captures the sentiment through telling his own story in Who am I and How Did I Get Here, Reflections of an American Muslim:

But when Muslims tell us that we cannot be American because that means we support ALL things America… it means they are telling us we cannot exist. I will say that again… it means they are telling us that WE CANNOT EXIST.

They can always fall back on their rich cultural heritages (that are often mistakenly called Islamic cultures. They are not, they’re merely cultures where the majority of the inhabitants are Muslims). But I don’t have that luxury or ability. America is the only culture I have to identify with.

Telling me its not possible is pushing me into nonexistence. I don’t think people with such rich cultures and heritages fully understand what its like to not have that to fall back on.

This past weekend, I attended the United for Change conference in Washington DC, where Dr. Sherman Jackson gave the best speech of the night eloquently explaining the rhetoric so often used to confuse Muslims, particularly converts to Islam.

The following is mostly paraphrased from my notes and memory

Dr. Jackson explained that when many in the Muslim world hear us identify as American Muslims, they equate this identity with full support for unpopular aspects of American foreign policy. They mistakenly believe that American Muslims “identify with, condone, or want to whitewash” these policies. However, Jackson notes that “identifying as a Muslim American does not mean I go along or condone” the actions of the U.S. government.

Dr. Jackson points out that if an American Muslim offers condolences for the victims of 9/11, as we rightly should, we are immediately challenged by some Muslims and asked if we are equally empathize with the loss of thousands of lives in the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan.

In order to truly communicate with others we must respect their feelings, counsels Jackson, while not shying away from our principles and that which makes us unique. He told the audience that he prefers to say,”I’m Muslim American and I love my country, not the government, but as home.” ”We don’t live in perfect countries or societies but they are our societies,” said Jackson so it’s “not fair to ask us to disavow our country due to its imperfect foreign policy.”

He advises that we not fall into the trap of believing that Islamophobia only affects Muslims because the Islamophobes are working against all of America, which has long been a multi-racial and multi-religious society. The “ambivalence” some Muslims feel towards being an American “feeds right into the rhetoric of the Islamophobes” who believe that being Muslim is incompatible with being a full citizen in Western lands. Continue reading

The New York Times | Andrea Elliott on Generation 9/11

Photo by Guy Calaf for The New York Times

Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Andrea Elliott profiles 3 young American Muslims, including me, in her most recent article, Generation 9/11, about the generation that came of age in the post-9/11 decade.

It’s humbling to read your own story told by someone else. More reflections later, God willing.

Forgiving Ourselves for Not Being Perfect


I’ve had the opportunity to meet with Muslims who’ve experienced spiritual crises of faith, which caused them to reconsider their belief in Islam or leave it altogether. And I’ve experienced a few of my own, which made me re-evaluate my understanding of my faith and religious identity.

One of the main mental stumbling blocks, which held be back from becoming a Muslim was my fear of imperfection manifested in sins I thought I might possibly commit at some point in the future. I wanted to learn as much as I could about Islam so that I could know what I was getting into and what I signed up for. Muslims believe that the one’s previous sins are washed away by conversion to the faith so I wanted to make sure that I remained in that purest of states, forever.

I can smile now looking back at my fairly innocent naiveté. For all the books I read that gave a nice overview of Islam, I didn’t know that God loves for us to turn to him in repentance when we make a mistake or sin so that he can forgives us. I didn’t know the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) informing us of the reality that every one of us commits sins and that the best of us in the sight of God are the ones who repent the most.

I wanted to be perfect but perfection is not an inherent quality of human beings. After much difficulty, I’ve come to realize that while I can strive for perfection, I’m also okay turning to God to forgive me when I fall short. This has been a hard realization and is still a continual process.

The Muslim community like any religious group can be incredibly compassionate or unforgiving. I’ve actually found more liberal-minded Muslims to be among the most open, honest and welcoming of others. There seems to be a “come as you are” philosophy among them. While in more conservative communities, I’ve found the philosophy tends toward the “pretend to be perfect or don’t come at all” mentality.

The “come as you are” philosophy can be problematic in that it sometimes overshadows or negates any religious boundaries. But the latter philosophy can also be problematic in forcing individuals, according to Wajahat Ali, “to perpetually lie, subvert, hide and pretend due to upholding a fairy-tale of a life just so others will not condemn, mock, ridicule, or exploit them for their fallibilities.

I’ve seen converts and born Muslims move away from Islam because they cannot reconcile between being a flawed human being that makes mistakes and the religious perfection hypocritically demanded by many of their equally flawed co-religionists.

I sometimes just want to say to them and to myself, it’s okay, come to Islam as you are, you’re not broken, turn to God, and forget about the criticism from others. I’m deeply flawed but I’m still Muslim and so are you. Continue reading

Eid al-Fitr 2011 | A Convert’s Eid | Fun with Friends

Early on the morning of Eid al-Fitr, the celebration marking the end of the month of Ramadan, I was awakened by the increase in light emanating from outside my bedroom window. It took a few minutes for me to realize that the power, which had been knocked out by the heavy winds and rain of Hurricane Irene had been restored.

Deprivation and loss brings about a new sense of humility and thankfulness. The electricity restoration was one of the best Eid gifts I’ve ever received. I’m thankful first and foremost to God and then also to Pepco, our utility company.

I arrived early to the Eid prayer but was a little disappointed that on such a beautiful day, we would be praying inside on an indoor track at the Prince George’s County Sports and Learning Complex rather than on the grass next to FedEx Field. I suppose plannng considerations around Hurricane Irene may have forced a change of venue.

The indoor track before the crowds arrived

Later, as the crowds begin to arrive

The Men

The Women

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