Sponsor ME! Paying for College and Islamic Classes

I had it in my mind to write a post about the recent phenomenon of Muslim students creating ChipIn and PayPal accounts and utilizing online media including Facebook, Twitter, and google groups to send out messages soliciting donations to attend the latest hit program. But AnonyMouse beat me to it with her I’m a Student of Knowledge, So Please Pay for my $20,000 Course! Often overlooked are the relatively inexpensive or free programs available locally.

I started working when I was in the 3rd grade, it was fun for me to deliver newspapers with my siblings and I got a rest day every two or three days. The lessons learned of hard work, dedication, reliability, and saving my earnings have served me well. I feel shy to ask my parents for money and even though they will support me if needed, I prefer to work extra hours or take on a second job to help support myself if I can do so. Yes, it’d be nice not to have to work but it’s become a part of my life and I’m okay with that.

There’s a hadith, that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) took a covenant from the Companions to not ask anything of anyone. And the Companions followed this principle so much so that if they dropped something while riding a camel they would stop and get down off the camel to pick it up before asking someone to hand it back to them. And mounting and dismounting a camel is no small feat.

Everyone’s situation is different and I don’t want to criticize those who ask because I don’t know their individual situations. What I do know is that I find it humbling to receive money from my parents to attend college or take Islamic classes. And it’s also very humbling and I’m quite grateful when I receive scholarships and grants to pursue a course of study. I’m already motivated to attend and reap the most benefit but even more so when I know someone made a decision to invest in me and in my future potential.

While I have benefitted from these luxury ilm classes through AlMaghrib, Zaytuna, Bayyinah, and DiscoverU, they are only one component of my Islamic studies. I’ve also learned a great deal from books and lectures and teachers in my local area, many of whom are not as well known. These local classes are often ongoing and require a great deal of patience and determination and high aspiration to remain committed to attend. It’s easy to clear your schedule for a week or two and free yourself from the daily distractions of work, school, family and friends, and volunteering to participate in a knowledge retreat. Much harder is staying committed and focused amidst the hustle and bustle and stressors of daily life.

Who do you find at these retreats? Serious students? There are some but let’s not kid ourselves most of those who attend do so because they can afford it or have been sponsored to attend, they’re able to travel, and they are able to put other obligations on hold. Many are those who tell me they are pining to attend Ilm Summit and no doubt it can be an amazing and life-changing experience. You learn and gain a lot of knowledge about unique topics, meet and network with some amazing people and can improve in areas like tajwid or public speaking.

But if you knew what we who’ve attended knew about our fellow students, you’d weep. Continue reading

Dr. Sulayman Nyang | The History of Muslims in America

My father is a professor of African and African American history and I can vaguely remember seeing on his bookshelves at home a book authored by Sulayman Nyang in my childhood. Many years later, when I was in the process of thinking about Islam, long before, well, at least a few months, before I converted, I ordered a large number of books about Islam online. And one of the books I purchased was Dr. Sulayman Nyang’s Islam in the United States. These books formed my first in-depth introduction to and study of Islam, which eventually culminated in my conversion.

So I was quite interested to have the opportunity to attend a day-long lecture on the history of Muslims in America given by Dr. Sulayman Nyang, the head of the African Studies department at Howard University. He reminded us that even though popular American history often begins with the arrival of Columbus that the history of Islam in America began during the Pre-Colombian period and that events that transpired at the same time in Africa and Europe are also a part of this story. Nyang emphasized that Muslims should learn this history and not see the history of Europe or sub-saharan Africa as separate from our story as American Muslims but to integrate it into our understanding.

According to Dr. Nyang, the most conservative estimates indicate that up to ten percent of the Africans brought to the Americas as slaves were Muslim. More than the trans-Atlantic slave trade, the story of Muslims and America includes the war-like encounters with the Barbary pirates in North Africa. Interesting that more than two hundred years later, the U.S. is once again engaged in armed conflict in Tripoli.

Around the turn of the 20th century former U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt as the police chief in New York City was dubbed Harun al-Roosevelt after the Muslim caliph Harun al-Rashid. Both are said have wandered the streets at night to gain a better perspective on the everyday lives and happenings of the people whom they served. Many Yemenis were employed in the automobile industry in and around Michigan, which is now one of the largest centers of Arab Americans and Muslims. These early Arab immigrants tended to marry white or black women if they did not return home to marry an Arab woman.

Muslims from Southern Europe and of Slavic descent tended to settle in northern cities and in the Midwest. Some Muslims arrived from South Asia and the Asian Pacific islands like Indonesia, Malaysia, and the Philippines and settled in the Western part of the United States and Canada. Among the Muslims settling on the West Coast were a large number of Muslims and Sikhs from the Punjab. Some of these young Punjabi men worked in the rice fields in California and married Mexican immigrant women, which led to the formation of the Punjabi-Mexican ethnic group, and some of their descendants can still be found today.

Important to the story of Islam in America particularly among Muslim immigrants was the construction the Suez Canal, which allowed more direct travel between Western countries and Asia, the Cold War, and the influx of young Muslim students in the latter half of the 20th century. Prior to Cold War, ninety percent of Arab immigrants in America were Christian. Today, the numbers of Arab Christians and Muslims have almost equalized. As the Cold War progressed, more and more Muslims began to immigrate to the United States and would begin to lay the foundation for the creation of the influential Muslim Student Association and the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA). The MSA began on college campuses and propagated a conservative form of Islam, which sought to correct what they believed were misguided or deviant interpretations.

More well-known is the story of African American journeys and encounters with Islam. However, there are two distinct narratives of Islam in the African American experience, which include a more traditional form of Islam and the formation of proto-Islamic groups. The story of traditional Islam is often mentioned in reference to Muslim immigrants or about Americans who traveled overseas to Muslim lands like Alexander Russell Webb and the remnants of Islam maintained by the descendants of African slaves as in the example of the Gullah people of the coast of South Carolina. A number of the proto-Islamic groups like the Nation of Islam or the Moorish Science Temple held beliefs deemed heretical to many of the more traditional Muslims.

Among the important legacies of the African American Muslim experience is that of institution building from mosques to schools to businesses, both on a local and national level and of interfaith work and dialogue. A legacy, which other American Muslims have only recently begun to recognize and emulate.

One stumbling block in the development and maturation of Muslim communities and institutions was the “Myth of Return.” Many Muslims immigrated to America believing that they would earn their education and living here and someday return to their home country. For these Muslims, their identity and roots were firmly moored in old world realities. But their children, often born here in America, do not share that same nostalgia for their parents’ home country and may not even be able to speak the language.

Dr. Nyang posits that this mythology of return pre-9/11 helped create a confused discourse about whether or not Muslims here could fully participate or identify as Americans or if migration to a Muslim land was preferable or even required. This also led to the “imported imam syndrome” where adults believing they might return to their home countries enjoyed having an imam who shared their cultural framework but this turned out to be a “disaster” for their children who grew up here and could not identify with this type of imam. According to Dr. Nyang, the events of September 11th, helped “explode the myth of return” for many Muslims, and while some did indeed return home, the vast majority who stayed have acknowledged that America is their home country. As for the growing pains experienced by the Muslim community, Nyang says “every group [in America] has negotiated for identity, security, and acceptance in the host society.”

According to Dr. Nyang, there are three types of Muslims, grasshoppers who wish to be fully assimilated into the dominant host culture and often change their names or are not outwardly recognizable as Muslim, oyster Muslims who are isolationist who tend to cling to more orthodox understandings of religion. These Muslims are somewhat like the Amish or orthodox Jews in being apart from society even while being in it to the limited extent necessary. The third group of Muslims are the owls, which seek a path to reconcile between the grasshoppers and the oysters.

Throughout his talk, Dr. Nyang encouraged the audience to take a proactive role in learning and researching this history to share with others. He also encouraged us as American Muslims today to effect positive change and participate in society through building institutions and also by writing in our campus newspapers to leave traces of a Muslim footprint so that those who come after us will know that we were once here.

It’s a thought-provoking question, at your school or workplace or in your community, if you left today, would anyone know a Muslim had been there?

Do You Know What Sincerity Feels Like?

Do you know what sincerity feels like? Have you seen it, have you felt it, have you lived or experienced it? I think many of us say we are trying to live sincere and honest lives. And I don’t doubt that many of us sincerely believe that we are being sincere and truthful with ourselves. But I also believe that on a day-to-day basis and maybe even in the larger scheme of life that we don’t always live up to our own ideas of sincerity.

Nearly five years ago, in the summer of 2007, I attended a workshop entitled “Master Your Emotions” in Ottawa led by Muhammad Alshareef. Reflecting back now, a few moments of enormous benefit continue to stand out for me. Through various activities, we were able to elicit for ourselves the underlying questions or beliefs that shape our outlook and behavior. These thoughts, sometimes negative, lurk just beneath surface in our minds and loop continuously.

A hallmark of these looping thoughts is that they are often triggered by an early and sometimes painful formative experience. One reason we hold onto these emotions is because we have yet to learn the lessons from that experience to prevent us from continuing to fall into it. When we are able to learn and internalize the necessary lessons, those negative emotions begin to lose their power.

From an early age, I loved to imitate my parents in reading the newspaper. Even though I had not yet learned to read I would look at the pictures and pour over the colorful Sunday comic insert. After I learned to read, I would always get so annoyed if someone did not put the newspaper back in order. The A section had to be before the B section and everything neatly folded. During the workshop, Alshareef asked for a volunteer and I raised my hand. We mapped out on big sheets of easel paper this issue and how disempowering it was to allow others to disturb my equilibrium simply by not putting an item, not just the newspaper, back in the order I preferred.

For me the issue among other things was one of respect, courtesy, and consideration. I believe I show consideration for the people around me by putting, for example, the newspaper sections back in the order they arrived in so that I don’t cause unnecessary hardship to the next person who may want to read it. But I realize that I cannot control the actions of others so I must content myself with what I can do and not let what others do or don’t do unbalance me.

One of the most powerful sessions during that weekend workshop, which continues to resonate with me and propel me forward to action was a test of our sincerity. Each participant was asked to select one goal that he or she ardently wanted to achieve and to share this goal with a small group of strangers. Continue reading

The Accidental Activist: How to Respond to Assault & Death Threats

If you challenge an unjust status quo, those invested in maintaining things the way they are will attempt to silence, marginalize, and may even try to harm you through physical or verbal threats and violence. So you as an activist should try your best to prepare how to respond beforehand. Each situation is unique and it’s hard to predict how a situation will affect you but here’s some advice based on personal experience.

Prepare Beforehand

1. Before you undertake any action, make sure you go into a situation with correct intentions. For the religiously-inclined, saying a prayer and consulting with a spiritual advisor may be helpful.

2. If possible, go with a group, so someone can watch your back, and in case your judgment is clouded, two heads are often better than one. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, …”three’s company.”

3. Be prepared with your technology. Smartphone, digital camera, flip videocamera, etc. Make sure you’ve charged them beforehand and have them ready to use or record at a moment’s notice so you can capture the assaulter in action, which may be useful later on to prove your case. Don’t be afraid to take their pictures or film them as they are not shy to do the same to you.

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4. Always have an exit strategy. Don’t allow yourself to be cornered. If threatened, move to a more open space, preferably one with potential witnesses. Don’t be surprised if people do not offer to help you, they may have their own motivations. It’s been my experience at two separate mosques, that it is often the people who work at the mosque that are the least helpful and most likely to lie and coverup what happened to protect their colleagues and organization. I’m not generalizing this to all mosques, just my experience at two local mosques that when I sought out assistance to either find out information about my assaulter or to thank those who stood up for me that mosque officials were unhelpful.

If assaulted

1. Call 911 or the police and request that they come to the scene.

2. When the police arrive, if they ask you if you want to press charges, say “yes.” Sounds self-explanatory but in the immediate aftermath of an assault, so much is happening that you’re not always thinking clearly. When I was assaulted last year, the police officers asked me if I wanted to press charges and I said, “no, I don’t think so.” They pressed me if I was sure and I still declined. It was only hours later when I was at home and began to process what had transpired that my mind became clearer and I did then want to press charges against the man who attacked me. My reasoning was to send a message to those thugs that it’s not okay to assault anyone and so that they might think twice before doing that again.

3. Allow the police to gather the identifying information from the person who assaulted you and get a copy for yourself. This is crucial.

So what do you do if you decide after the fact that you want to press charges

1. Well, in Virginia, you must go to the County Magistrate and fill out some forms indicating the nature of your complaint. This can be a major stumbling block because in order to file a complaint, you will need identifying material on your attacker including full name and date of birth. Yes, that’s something you might not have learned in your self defense class that in addition to shouting “Stop!” and “No!” don’t forget to say “Excuse me, can I have your full name and date of birth?” Other information that is helpful is driver’s license number or license plate number, home address, and place of work. This information tends not to be something you think about while you are being assaulted. And even if you ask for or try to obtain this information, the other party is usually not very forthcoming for obvious reasons.

How to get around this? If you know where your attacker lives or works, you can have a police officer confront the individual and obtain the information you need. In my case, I knew the man who assualted me worked at the mosque. One day after the assault I went to the mosque for Friday prayer and saw the man that assaulted me setting up orange cones, directing traffic, and opening and closing the gates to the parking lot. So after we prayed, I went over to the police officers who help direct traffic around the mosque on Fridays and explained my situation to them. They listened and one very nice officer walked back to the mosque with me and asked me to discreetly point out my attacker. The officer confronted the man and took down all the pertinent identifying information for me to use to file my complaint with the magistrate. Continue reading